From the heart. Read on…

Isn’t it ironic? We go through life always trying to be in control when in fact, we lose sight of the plot and end up in a situation whereby life controls us. I know it. I lived it.

Conversely, failed relationships, heartache, anger…I’m eternally grateful that they were and still are a part of my life. They’ve strengthened who I am inside and made me who and what I am today…nothing less than the best of what I can be and still getting better.

You get to a point whereby you realise that you’ve lost yourself somewhere along the way and for what? For the ex that screwed you over? The heartache that took you so long to overcome. I’m sorry but NONE of that is worth it. I’ve made a choice and that choice is to be 100% ME. Let my guard down but not be naïve, open my heart but not make it easy to abuse it…give love a chance without the false expectation of perfection.

It’s with that in mind that I now see that falling in and out of love/like is part of the beauty of life. I want to experience the joy and the pain, the laughter and the tears…are these not the things that make you cherish the happy moments with newfound love even more? Is it even fair to punish those that come into our lives because of the mistakes of those that left us in a world of hurt?

Between finding the ideal partner and simply just living life by taking (emotional) chances, I choose the latter for by not holding back, I open up my mind to new possibilities that I may have otherwise overlooked, new experiences that I may have otherwise deprived myself of, new memories to share with someone.

I’m done playing safe, I want the world and I want to offer it in return, I want the girl not because I need her but because I know that despite our ups and downs, likes and dislikes, there’s not a single man out there who will work harder and making her happy, even if it means screwing up along the way…after all, we do learn from our mistakes yes?

However, although I offer so much, I refuse to compromise what I am. I refuse to change who I am. I’ve always said that I would never settle for second best and as such, I want nothing less than to be accepted for what I am…the best at being me. If that’s not good enough for one, then room should be made for the one to whom the shoe fits. After all, we only live once, and life is one gift I intend to make the most of.

Success

Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.

I am legend

I’m not Will Smith but I Am Legend…sturdy words, profound proclamation but oh so true. Today marks the evolution of ME. Today I see a paradigm shift…a shift from what I once was, to more that I can be.

I woke up this morning and finally realised that I am whole. I and the “man in the mirror” have finally become one…and everything’s so much clearer now. I’m no Superman but I will save the world. I’m no Saint but I will make a difference. I’m no Santa but I will infect every face with a smile. Today’s all about being a better me, an innovative me, a complete me.

No more beating myself up about what could have been. No more fearing what may become. As I sit here with a sound mind, I vow to make every millisecond of every moment count!

Was this the purpose to my countdown you might ask? Well that countdown was really anything you wanted it to be but so as to not make it all pointless, yes there was and still is a purpose and reason behind it all, but no, sadly this is not it.

This is simply me freeing myself from the shackles that have held me back for far too long. This is simply me taking control of what has always been mine from the start – my life. I will reconcile for nothing less than the best because I aspire not only to be the best but give the best. I’m only as derisorily frail as I make myself out to be and that’s something I cannot and will not stand for.

Today, the boy who became a man now becomes a living legend. Arrogant some might say but alas, it’s merely one individual finally believing in himself and on the road to discovering his full potential. Great potential I might add.

For the first time in what can only be described as “long overdue”, I feel so alive and nothing and no one can take that away from me. It’s time to start making a difference starting with me…and then you, her, him, them. This is the ripple effect, let’s execute it…let’s leave a legacy for future generations. Let’s all be legends in our own right.

A little self-inspiration

It used to be about a future that I almost felt so sure about, a feeling that had me thinking that maybe it’s not selfish to ask for more, but through broken dreams, and life’s lessons, it’s safe to say that I think I can finally make sense of it all :-).

Ever had that one song that would always put a smile on your face or at least bring a happy tear to your eye whenever you felt the world was against you? I think that’s what self-happiness feels like, or at least how it should.

We all go through life with so much in store yet never content with what we have or who we are. We spend so much time focused on how we’ve been hurt before and allow it to dictate how we live our lives. We always feel that our problems are far worse than anyone else’s. It’s sad but we’re a very selfish species…then again, selfish seems somewhat of an understatement.

Personally, I don’t know what the future holds but I’m thankful for every day, every night, those happy moments shared with family, the smile on the face of the one you love, having a really bad day and no matter how bad your mood is, that one true friend disregards it all and goes out of their way to get that one laugh out of you, no matter how ridiculous the situation may be. Lately I’ve learnt that we need to make the most of what we have because we could lose it all any day, in the end it will all feel like a distant dream, a reminiscence that never was.

This is a crazy world and unfortunately it’s the fanatical things that make the most sense. In our quest for normality and sanity, we only find more insanity but in accepting it all then, well, everything begins to fall into place and make sense. No doubt that we’d all like some sense of perfection in our lives – families free of rules and regulations, relationships free of arguments, friendships free of betrayal, careers free of heavy demands, academics free of stress but think about it, how boring would it all be? Does it not make sense that we experience the above with those we love the most and care for unconditionally?

As I’ve gotten older, a part of me has yearned for those years when parents were over-protective, felt and feels good to know that even if nobody else gave a damn, there were people out there who’d go to the ends of the earth for your sake.

I’ve learnt to take the positive out of arguments within a relationship for it’s those moments that teach us so much about our partners and teach us to bounce back so much stronger than before. Friendships have taught me that though you may feel betrayed at times, there will always be family and the handful of genuine friends who will always stick around when everybody else leave us feeling so alienated.

Maybe the overall apprehension here is that it’s high time we toughened up. Time we all stopped feeling so sorry for ourselves and realising that nobody has more influence over our happiness than ourselves. Yes we tend to attribute it to those that we love (at times) but does that now mean that you need to lose it all when they’re gone? I mean let’s be real, if we struggle to allow other people to have control over some of the material and physical things we hold dear, why do we allow them to dictate how happy we should be and when? Why do we always have to say that someone “makes us happy” as opposed to them making us happier? Should that be what we all strive for?

With all this inculcated within me, I feel that to some extent, I’ve become so much stronger and emotionally mature, so much more prepared for whatever awaits me. I may die tomorrow, I may no longer be with the one I love, and tomorrow may not even come at all. Until then though, I’ll make the most of the ‘hello, I love you, I miss you, I’m thinking of you and the goodbyes’, we never know when we’ll never have the chance to say them again or when it may be too late.

Maybe it’s not even selfish to ask for more. Correction, maybe it’s not always selfish…I mean more time to enjoy the moments that mean the world to us, more smiles, more love…I guess more of some things makes sense.

All in all, it’s fair to say that it’s time to have a better sense of appreciation for myself, for those in my life, for life itself and to not let anyone but myself control what I do or who I am. Just hope it has a ripple effect.

My first blog…ever

Ah, my first proper blog and yet words fail to come to mind. Where to start? What to do? Well…

Um, I love long walks on the beach and picnics in the park :roll:. Seriously though, I’m just a regular guy who just happens to be privileged to be a father to an adorable baby girl, happily married husband to a beautiful wife, son to loving parents, brother to the most wonderful (and entertaining) siblings, I’m a friend, an entrepreneur, an optimist, a motivator, a problem solver and at the core of it all, a God-fearing man. That pretty much sums up the high-level of who I am, as this blog grows, so will one’s insight into an extension of my personality.

So why a blog? Maybe is has to do with my passion for writing, or perhaps the fact that I like to express my thoughts in words. On the other hand, being blessed to network with new and interesting people on (almost) a daily basis, I’ve come to not only understand people a lot better but also realised that we tend to be so caught up in our own world and comfort zone that we feel and inflexibly believe that the trials and tribulations we face are inimitable to us only to realise that many of us go through parallel issues. Hopefully through this platform, one will realise just that.

So sit back, relax and I hope that you’ll enjoy this journey with me, that in some way, big or small, it can make a difference to you. If at the end of the day I’ve impacted just one person or even a person a day, then I’ve at least succeeded in making a difference in someone’s life.

Here’s to brighter days ahead 🙂

 

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